HuffPost Her Stories: Exploring Black Hair And Identity

This is Dominique, back on the newsletter this week — this time from sticky, sweltering Singapore, where the streets have been disquietingly empty as people have battened down the hatches and taken shelter out of fear of getting ill with the novel coronavirus. Below, a native of Wuhan, China, the epicenter of the sickness, shares her perspective on the virus terrifying the globe — but let’s not dwell on that for the time being. 

I first want to thank all the generous readers who wrote in to share their own stories in response to last week’s newsletter on gender dynamics in marriage. Some readers said gender imbalances in relationships appear to be shifting in a positive direction in many cultures, including in the U.S., but that there’s still a long way to go. Self-love and self-work, including seeking counseling for both partners, is key to enacting change in a relationship, a Pennsylvania-based clinical social worker and family therapist suggested in her email to me. 

This week, we’ll be pivoting our focus to something quite different but similarly compelling: Exploring this interactive feature on Black hair, created by HuffPost U.S. and published in honor of Black History Month. 

The feature, which seeks to amplify Black conversations about Black hair, tells the stories of 18 people and their relationship with their kinky, curly, straight, dreadlocked and even hairless heads.  

Black Hair Defined is all about letting people tell their stories about their hair journeys, Erin Evans, a senior enterprise editor at HuffPost who commissioned the articles for this project, told me from New York. 

“Whether that was a story about hair loss, or about embracing natural hair as a Black trans woman or even a few fun pieces that looked iconic hairstyles in film, music, politics and sports — it was important for there to be a variety of perspectives and voices since Black hair is beautiful and versatile in all its many forms,” Erin said.  

“For me, this project really resonated as a true exploration of how people think deeply about their relationship to their hair,” Erin added. “I rock a curly ’fro because I love how it looks, whether the curls are defined, frizzy or tangled. And as a Black woman, I think there’s so much beauty and power in being able to embrace my curls and coils no matter what anyone else may think.” 

Soak in the project for yourself and then perhaps ponder how your own hair has influenced your identity. Share your thoughts with me at [email protected]. 

Wishing you a fantastic weekend,

Dominique Mosbergen, Senior Reporter, HuffPost U.S.

Check out the rest of the HuffPost U.S. Black History Month coverage here, and follow Erin and HuffPost Black Voices editor Taryn Finley on Twitter. 

If you’re in New York, you can also join HuffPost editors for a conversation on Black hair, politics and identity on Feb. 26. Register here. 

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